Monthly Archives: August 2011

Facebook: A New Frontier in Social Awkwardness


Facebook: A New Frontier in Social Awkwardness.

 

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Friggin’ Tires!!


Ok so I will admit that I am not the most observant when it comes to things that need changed.  I do remember about changing my oil much better now than when I was younger.  I do check batteries and remember to buy laundry detergent.  I check things and make sure that we have enough and that we replace when getting low….but I never stop to think about my tires.  Yeah….noticed that my tires were really worn on the front.  Like dangerously so.  Threadbare on one side and cables showing on the other. So I limped it to work this morning BEGGING for it to not go flat before I got here.  Did not think about asking for it not to go flat before I get it to the place to get the new tire…..Soooooo I pulled into the parking lot, parked, opened my door and heard a hiss of air rushing out of my tire.  Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaammiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit!  **Sighs**So now I have to limp it to Wal-Mart to get a new tire in rush hour traffic.  Good thing is that it is close.  Bad thing is that I was sick one day last week so the paycheck is a day short.  Will there ever come a time when I can just get a little ahead??


Friendship


Ok so this is me ranting a bit.  Publically ranting about something that happened recently.  I am sure that you have seen my other blog about my social anxiety…well if you have not then please check it here:

 “Ok so here is what went down.  My husband and I split up for about a month earlier this year.  We are working on things and are stronger than ever…but there were some friends who were involved.  My friends and his friends.  Now most of the people who are his friends are people we work with.  He got invited to a birthday party and made it seem like we were both invited.  So I got off work, went home, did my hair, put on make up and got all dressed up.  We went but the party time changed so we went out to eat at an Indian restaurant.  It did not agree with him.  By the time we got to the bar he was really in bad shape.  So he headed towards the closest bathroom.  We were spotted and I didn’t want to be rude so while he went home, I went in and hung out until he could make it back.  Two hours later he made it back and we all hung out.  Then….they all wanted to leave to go back to the hotel room.  We were invited back with them.  It was fun and everyone was having a good time but I felt awkward.  Everyone was changing clothes and I did not know that it was that kind of party so I said that we would go back home and I would change clothes into something more comfortable and then we would be back.  I texted to see how many glasses were needed because there were not enough in the suite.  I was texted back by one person that none were needed.  I asked if they even wanted me to come back and another person answered that question.  Not even the person I had texted.   I was informed that they were all shit-faced and I was better off where I was.  I don’t have the birthday girl’s number.  She seemed to be the only one who really wanted me there.  Instead I got my feelings hurt and basically was told not to bother coming back.  Now maybe this is me being a little overly sensitive.  But seriously.  If you were going to be like that, why would you not just make an excuse before I left and came home and was getting ready to head back out there door.  WTF??  I am sorry but this is just not the way you treat someone that you want to be friends with.  So my only conclusion can be that they don’t really want to be friends with me.  Do you think that I am wrong?”

 This being said…the two that did this to me…well…they have now unfriended me on FaceBook.  Really?  Seriously?  The photographer and one of my bridesmaids from my wedding…and they have unfriended me and made sure to make sure that I did not come back to a birthday party that the birthday girl wanted me at.  This is not friendship at all.  It really bothers me that grown adults feel the need to act this way.  And these are people that work in consumer relations and get paid to be nice to people all day long.  Who needs friends like that, right?  Karma will get them and they will be sorry.


Master Chef Season 2 Again


So I can tell you because I just watched Monday’s episode that I am sad to see Tracy go home.  I really liked her.  I will also tell you that I really really dislike Christian.  I loathe him.  I want him to lose and in a big way.  That is pretty vengeful and hateful of me and I hate that but it is true.

I guess I will soothe myself with my own home recipe of curry ramen w veggies.  Hmmmmm, maybe someday I could be a Master Chef contender……


My Maytag Bravos Washer


Ok so today I went to put clothes into the washer and saw that the plastic rim around the top of the washing machine tub was all chewed up.  Not sure what could possibly have caused something like this to happen.  I will be contacting the manufacturer and will keep you posted.  Needless to say…I am not happy.  We just bought this machine in March.  I am really not happy that the washing machine that we saved and scrounged for is already messed up.


MasterChef Season 2


Ok so we missed the first season.  We have been watching this second season and I have to say….I HATE Christian.  He is an arrogant asshole and he can never give praise to anyone else, or even acknowledge that there may be a better way to do things than what he is doing.  He can’t even take constructive criticism, which Gordon Ramsay has been trying to be very good at giving.  I want to see him GONE.  Now that Jennifer, Ben, Suzy, Adrien, Tracy and Christian are the only ones left, I have to say that I am hoping either Tracy, Ben, Adrien or Jennifer wins.  I think that, although she has learned some humility, Suzy just doesn’t get it.  I think that Ben is panicking too much but I really think that he can pull it out in the end.  I think that Christian is a first class asshole who cooks angry and doesn’t let his passion come through in a positive way.  We will see in a few weeks if I am right. 🙂


I am in love with a salad…


I know…It is strange.  It is wrong.  I mean, I am a married woman….but alas, I am in love with a salad.  I have been making this AMAZING salad lately.  It has a half can of mandarin oranges, a generous sprinkling of chopped walnuts, cheese, dried cranberries and is topped with ranch dressing.  The lettuce: leafy romaine.  The result:  OMG Wowness.  It is amazing and SOOOO good for you.  Fruits, veggies, nuts, dairy….what wouldn’t be good about it??  So I must confess that I am totally and hopelessly in love with this salad.  Don’t tell my husband…. 🙂


Slut Walks? Have you heard of this before? This was copied from Wikipedia.


Slut Walk, Chicago, 4 June 2011The SlutWalk protest marches began on April 3, 2011 in Toronto, Canada and became a movement of rallies across the world. Participants protest against explaining or excusing rape by referring to any aspect of a woman’s appearance. The rallies began when Constable Michael Sanguinetti, a Toronto Police officer, suggested that to remain safe, “women should avoid dressing like sluts.”The protest takes the form of a march, mainly by young women, where some dress in ordinary clothing and others dress provocatively, like “sluts.” There are also speaker meetings and workshops.Some objectors have remarked that this approach is an example of women defining their sexuality in male terms.

2 July 2011On January 24, 2011 Constable Michael Sanguinetti spoke on crime prevention at a York University safety forum. He said: “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.”Co-founders Sonya Barnett and Heather Jarvis decided to use the word slut in their response.They observe that historically, “slut” has had negative connotations, and that their goal is to redeem the term. They write that women “are tired of being oppressed by slut-shaming; of being judged by our sexuality and feeling unsafe as a result.” They continue: “Being in charge of our sexual lives should not mean that we are opening ourselves to an expectation of violence, regardless if we participate in sex for pleasure or work.”Sanguinetti later apologized for the remark. April 11 over 3,000 gathered at Queen’s Park (Toronto). The day began with speeches before moving to the Toronto Police Headquarters. Although the website requested women to dress in everyday wear (to symbolize ordinary women, sexually assaulted in ordinary life), many women dressed as “sluts” in provocative clothing. The idea spread to include major cities around the globe.

]Jessica Valenti says: “In just a few months, SlutWalks have become the most successful feminist action of the past 20 years.”SlutWalks have been attended by thousands of women and men, and debated in the media. DebateThere have been a number of responses to the SlutWalk phenomenon, not all of them positive. For example, Australian commentator Andrew Bolt observed that guidance on how to dress in any given context is simply risk management, and such advice need not be mutually exclusive with opposition to victim-blaming. Rod Liddle agrees, saying “…I have a perfect right to leave my windows open when I nip to the shops for some fags, without being burgled. It doesn’t lessen the guilt of the burglar that I’ve left my window open, or even remotely suggest that I was deserving of being burgled. Just that it was more likely to happen.” But Jessica Valenti says: “The idea that women’s clothing has some bearing on whether they will be raped is a dangerous myth feminists have tried to debunk for decades.” “Whether we blame victims by calling them “sluts” (who thus asked to be raped), or by calling them “frigid” (who thus secretly want to be overpowered), the problem is that we’re blaming them for their own victimization no matter what they do. Encouraging women to be even more “sluttish” will not change this ugly reality.” – Gail Dines and Wendy J Murphy feminists Gail Dines and Wendy J Murphy have suggested that the word slut is inherently indivisible from the madonna/whore binary opposition and thus “beyond redemption.” They say: “Women need to find ways to create their own authentic sexuality, outside of male-defined terms like slut.”[20] Some popular responses have also questioned the wisdom of using the word “slut,” even suggesting that “far from empowering women, attempting to reclaim the word has the opposite effect, simply serving as evidence that women are accepting this label given to them by misogynistic men,” concluding “Women should not protest for the right to be called slut.” Others have noted that the use of the word “slut” raises the hackles of those anxious about the ““pornification” of everything and the pressure on young girls to look like Barbie dolls.” Melinda Tankard Reist, notable for her stance against sexualisation of children in modern pop culture, said: “I believe the name will marginalize women and girls who want to be active in violence prevention campaigns but who don’t feel comfortable with personally owning the word slut.” British Conservative MP Louise Bagshawe has objected to SlutWalk “on the grounds that it “lionised promiscuity”, which she says is harmful.” She also added “promiscuity is not equality.”[25] Guy Randle has contrasted SlutWalk with Reclaim the Night protests, saying they “resisted the deep cultural pull to make women into objects rather than subjects, to be constituted by the male gaze… there was no way to watch Reclaim The Night and feel like, or be, a voyeur.” At worst, it has been said that “Slutwalkers have internalized their abuse” and SlutWalk is “the pornification of protest.”